First, Beth reviewed the literature and research we had on file.
With this in mind, I reviewed our interviews with men and women who were planning to marry and videos of two focus groups we had run with single men.
My researchers approached this project the same way we had others.
In the past, a married woman is so stay at home to do household chores.
But now, with the freedom to have their own career and occasional shopping trips with the girls, more and more women are taking up this opportunity to seek other men to fulfill their sexual desires or just for friendship. This is going to be a complicated relationship, so quit if you know you are not going to handle it well.
She said, “You reinforce the myth that the reason men don’t commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman." After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.
Beth was also right when she said that if I could help women identify which men were more likely to commit, I would be performing a real service.